This is THE song. The song you want to fall in love to, cry to, make sweet love to, tell your favorite person about. Its the song that is too personal to bring up. This song is the soundtrack to your happiness.
“Young people love what is interesting and odd, no matter how true or false it is. More mature minds love what is interesting and odd about truth. Fully mature intellects, finally, love truth, even when it appears plain and simple, boring to the ordinary person; for they have noticed that truth tends to reveal its highest wisdom in the guise of simplicity.”—Nietzsche (via slightlypretentious) (via boring-stuff)
Stopped at the local Starbucks for some coffee (French press ground - the best!). Don’t demonize me for going to Starbucks - it is locally owned and as far as a larger mother ship company goes - is really good (health insurance and education benefits for part timers, is moving to all fair trade…
“We’re so inconsistent about what we let kill ya. “Smoking? Must be eradicated. Marijuana? Zero tolerance.” But there’s lots of ways to kill yourself. You know what I think kills you? Stress, and being a workaholic, and never getting laid, and, uh, McDonalds, and staying mad at people, and lying for a living, and three-martini lunches, and the all-American breakfast, and whatever the fuck Elvis was doing. That’s what kills you.”—Bill Maher (via nihilnoetia) (via quote-book) (via trivo)
“Men look at attractive women the way we look at pretty butterflies. They catch the male brain’s attention for a second, but then they flit out of his mind. Five minutes later, while we’re still fuming, he’s deciding whether he wants ribs or chicken for dinner.”
“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.”—Ashley Smith (via kari-shma)
Sprezzatura. This is an archaic Italian word for being able to do your craft without a lot of visible effort. It’s a combination of elan and grace and class, sort of the opposite of loud grunts while you play tennis or a lot of whining and fuss when you help out a customer.
Many people are unable to put their finger on it, but this is a magnetic trait for many of us. We want our lawyer, dentist and waiter to demonstrate sprezzatura, but of course, not particularly try to. This is one of the secrets of Danny Meyer’s top-rated restaurants in New York. It doesn’t have to be flashy, it doesn’t even have to be the very best there ever was, but sprezzatura is enough to get us to return. As long as this light-footedness is scarce, it will remain valuable.
that I was a Celt in a past life. And I didn’t need St. Paddy to tell me so. It’s been a conclusion I’ve been meaning to arrive at for a while now. Or perhaps my Celtic roots from Spanish side is finally showing. What does it mean when I wake up to Gaelic Storm EVERY DAY for the past month and still not get tired of them? Or while I drive to school? Or back home from work? OR AFTER 302 PLAYS JUST LAST WEEK ALONE?
Two of my favorite writers: Oscar Wilde and James Joyce. My favorite region in France that I visited: la Bretagne. By the way, guess what my beer of choice is (hint: it’s dark). Mind you, I was never a beer fan before it.
What about being surrounded by all things Irish wherever I go? Did you realize the colors of my school are the colors on the Irish flag? Or that the streets in my hometown are Irish names? How about one of my favorite teachers in high school was Mr. McAlice. Last year for Halloween, I was Dr. Loveless from the 1999 rendition of Wild Wild West with Will Smith. Except that I was Loveless, who was portrayed by Kenneth Branagh. I find out way after Halloween, oh yeah, he’s Irish too (He also plays Hamlet in the version he directed, which I feel was better than Mel Gibson’s. But I would say that…)
I really don’t know what to make of it. I don’t wanna go all philosophical on you all and find some hidden meaning in this. But I won’t lie…I’m fucking fascinated.
A new research study has discovered that if you are true to yourself, better romantic relationships will follow.
The study examined how dating relationships were affected by the ability of people to see themselves clearly and objectively, act in ways consistent with their beliefs, and interact honestly and truthfully with others — in other words, the ability to follow the words of William Shakespeare: “to thine own self be true,” said Amy Brunell, lead author of the study and assistant professor of psychology at Ohio State University’s Newark campus.
Findings showed that college students who reported being more true to themselves also reported more positive dating relationships.
“If you’re true to yourself, it is easier to act in ways that build intimacy in relationships, and that’s going to make your relationship more fulfilling,” Brunell said.
The study appears online in the journal Personality and Individual Differences and will be published in an upcoming print edition.
Participating in the study were 62 heterosexual couples, all of whom were college students. The participants completed a long list of questionnaires in three separate sessions that took place about two weeks apart.
The first set of questionnaires probed how true participants were to themselves, a characteristic that psychologists call “dispositional authenticity.”
This was measured through the answers to questions like “For better or for worse, I am aware of who I truly am.”
In the second phase, participants answered questions examining various aspects of their relationship functioning, including their willingness to discuss their emotions with their partner, and whether they kept secrets.
The third phase involved measures of relationship satisfaction and personal well-being.
Overall, the study found that both men and women who reported being more true to themselves also behaved in more intimate and less destructive ways with their partner, and that led to them feeling their relationship was more positive. In addition, they also reported greater personal well-being.
But the study revealed an interesting gender difference in how authenticity in men and women affected their partners, Brunell said.
Men who were more true to themselves had partners who showed more healthy relationship behaviors. However, there was no significant relationship between women being true to themselves and men’s relationship behaviors.
That finding may be the result of relationship gender roles in our society, she said.
“Typically in dating and marital relationships, the women tend to be ‘in charge’ of intimacy in the relationship,” Brunell explained.
“So when men have this dispositional authenticity, and want to have an open, honest relationship, it makes women’s job easier – they can more easily regulate intimacy,” she said.
But since men have less of a role in developing relationship intimacy, they were not affected as much by whether their partners were true to themselves or not.
The study also confirmed findings from other studies that show that when men or women act in constructive, healthy ways in a relationship, it increases their partners’ satisfaction with the relationship.
Brunell said being true to yourself doesn’t mean that you should accept all of your flaws and not try to make positive changes in your life. But you should be aware of both your limitations and areas where you can improve. One payoff could be better romantic relationships.
“It shouldn’t be a surprise, but being true to yourself is linked to having healthier and happier relationships for both men and women,” she said.
This is a refreshing drink we started making the other day in school as an alternative to just regular water. It is very simple to make.
-1 gallon of water
-2 to 3 slices of lemon and lime
-5 to 6 slices of cucumber
Slice all of the cucumber, lemons and limes and put into a pitcher or in our case we found it easy to just use a sun tea pitcher. Fill the pitcher about half way with ice and top it off with water. Let the pitcher sit and chill for about and hour or so and serve.
Two engineering students were walking across campus when one said, “Where did you get such a great bike?” The second engineer replied, “Well, I was walking along yesterday minding my own business when a beautiful woman rode up on this bike. She threw the bike to the ground, took off all her clothes and said, ‘Take what you want.’” The second engineer nodded approvingly, “Good choice. The clothes probably wouldn’t have fit.”